Just because you have a bad day or just because your child had  record-breaking all around rotten day, you are not a failure.  One of the quickest ways to feel down about yourself is to concur with your adversary that you are failing in any one area of your life.  I have noticed that it is all too common for women to feel like they are failing at motherhood.  What a cruel joke.   Just because a day fails to please you and does not meet your own standard, does not mean that YOU are a failure.  Please stop giving in to the lies the adversary sends your way.

“Failure” does not exist unless you allow it to be part of your world.  Refuse to be defined by outcomes and momentary setbacks.  Recognize that you can take any moment and learn from it and then your previous “failures” will become something that provided knowledge that pushed you forward toward your goals.  It is good to discover the way not to do something and it is great that we get to try a new approach tomorrow.  Own your own power and feel gratitude that you can try again tomorrow.  As Johnny Cash said:

“You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don’t try to forget the mistakes, but you don’t dwell on it. You don’t let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space.”

Out with failure and in with gratitude and positive thoughts!

I just finished reading Yann Martel’s Life of Pi. The best part of the book was Chapter 56, which perfectly describes fear.During almost every client session, fears are released and replaced with affirmations. Fears are limiting to our progress and performance. Do you have fears that need to be released?  Schedule a private session and live your best life as you feel free to become your best self.

I must say a word about fear. It is life’s only true opponent. Only fear can defeat life. It is a clever, treacherous adversary, how well I know. It has no decency, respects no law or convention, shows no mercy. It goes for your weakest spot, which it finds with unerring ease. It begins in your mind, always. One moment you are feeling calm, self-possessed, happy. Then fear, disguised in the garb of mild-mannered doubt, slips into your mind like a spy. Doubt meets disbelief and disbelief tries to push it out. But disbelief is a poorly armed foot soldier. Doubt does away with it with little trouble. You become anxious. Reason comes to do battle for you. You are reassured. Reason is fully equipped with the latest weapons technology. But, to your amazement, despite superior tactics and a number of undeniable victories, reason is laid low. You feel yourself weakening, wavering. Your anxiety becomes dread.

Fear next turns fully to your body, which is already aware that something terribly wrong is going on. Already your lungs have flown away like a bird and your guts have slithered away like a snake. Now your tongue drops dead like an opossum, while your jaw begins to gallop on the spot. Your ears go deaf. Your muscles begin to shiver as if they had malaria and your knees to shake as though they were dancing. Your heart strains too hard, while your sphincter relaxes too much. And so with the rest of your body. Every part of you, in the manner most suited to it, falls apart. Only your eyes work well. They always pay proper attention to fear.

Quickly you make rash decisions. You dismiss your last allies: hope and trust. There, you’ve defeated yourself. Fear, which is but an impression, has triumphed over you.

The matter is difficult to put into words. For fear, real fear, such as shakes you to your foundation, such as you feel when you are brought face to face with your mortal end, nestles in your memory like a gangrene: it seeks to rot everything, even the words with which to speak of it. So you must fight hard to express it. You must fight hard to shine the light of words upon it. Because if you don’t, if your fear becomes a wordless darkness that you avoid, perhaps even manage to forget, you open yourself to further attacks of fear because you never truly fought the opponent who defeated you.

A simple Belief Breakthrough session, either group or personal, releases the fears that keep us stuck. This type of healing is amazing because you can permenantly release the fears that previously had the potential to torment you for days on end.  I often work with business men and women that are embarking on new projects and opportunities.  They are driven, inspired, and committed to their success, yet fears creep in and nearly paralyze them from moving forward. A quick appointment allows my clients to let go of those fears and other blocks that have kept them stuck, so they are free to enjoy their lives and new prosperity. I love helping my clients experience their true selves!