Each morning, I wake up and do my morning ritual. I stretch my body and connect to God. I read the scriptures and I feed myself positive energy. And then I step into the bathroom and see the scale in the corner. I have stepped on that scale thousands of times. You know how it goes, you have been there too. I step on the scale, willing it to be nice. “Be nice! Please just be a number I can deal with.” “Go down!” I plead, especially if I ate the “right ways” the day before. “What?!!! I only had green smoothies, a bit of grilled chicken, salad, and healthy stuff all day long! I didn’t eat too much or not enough. I was nearly perfect! I used my Slim and Sassy! What is wrong with me? I hate the scale!” And then sometimes I would step right back on the scale to see if it would now respond the way I expected and wanted it to. But that darn scale has a mind of its own. It doesn’t hear my pleadings and it certainly doesn’t obey my commands to please be nice! Do you realize that I have probably given myself negative chatter over the scale thousands of times? Thousands!
And the negative chatter doesn’t just stop in my morning meeting with the scale. It can show up anywhere. Negative chatter can show up when I tell my children they can make their own yogurt parfaits or other food. It shows up when I am working and things don’t go as I want them to go. It can show up when I am serving others and thinking of other things. Negative chatter is sneaky! It shows up without warning in everything we do.
By nature, I am an optimistic positive person, yet I have negative chatter that shows up here and there and everywhere! Affirmations and positive energy have shifted my thoughts and created new brain pathways, but I have discovered that asking myself simple questions can instantly feed my soul. Before I step on the scale, I am asking myself, “Can I be nice to myself about this?” If I can’t truthfully say yes, I have no business stepping on the scale. You see, it wasn’t the scale that needed to be nice to me. It is my responsibility to be nice, kind and gentle to myself!
I get to choose in every moment how I will react. I am finding this tool works everywhere! If I ask different questions, I get different answers. I am shifting questions that cause me to feel bad to questions that empower me. Here are some of my favorites:
- How can I offer myself grace in this moment? (I am doing quite well, given the circumstances. I am doing a beautiful job!)
- What can I celebrate right now? (My children have the opportunity to be able to take care of themselves! I am allowing my children to be empowered to take care of their own needs. I am making progress!)
- What is the most gentle thing I can tell myself right now? (I am enough. This will all work out. I am loved.)
- What would I tell my sister if she were in these exact same circumstances? (You do not give yourself enough credit. Don’t listen to the gremlins and negative chatter! It is there to bring you down, but is not true!)
- What would the Savior have me know about myself right now? (You are precious. You are loved and cherished. You are powerful beyond measure and I will see you through. You can do more than you think you can.)
The truth is that we do want the scale and everything else in our world to be nice to us. We like the feeling that comes when the scale reflects back our positive efforts are paying off. But the feeling that comes from learning how to truly love ourselves through everything we experience, through all of our shortcomings, and through every challenge is even more powerful! We are infinite creators and we do have the power to change what we are experiencing. You deserve to experience more positive energy. I challenge you to try using these questions and see if it changes your life too!